From matric to the real world, the anxiety is real. Navigating post-school anxiety can be a difficult thing for matriculants. Whether you are starting university, entering college, or looking for work, the move into adulthood is a major shift.
For over 12 or 13 years of your life, you followed a set routine. You had a fixed schedule, a uniform, and a clear path to follow every day. Now that the structure has changed, you are entering unfamiliar territory. It is common to feel a sense of fear or “transition anxiety” during this time. The move from a predictable environment to a world of total independence can feel overwhelming.
If you are feeling stressed about the future, you are not alone. This guide offers young adults practical advice on how to manage the fear of the unknown.
Strategies to manage the transition
Shift the perspective on the perfect plan
Many matriculants feel they must have a 10-year plan carved in stone. Our country’s job market is dynamic, and many people change careers multiple times.
Instead of focusing on the next decade, try focusing on the next few months as you break the future into smaller, manageable chunks. This makes it less intimidating.
Start with the basics of independence
Usually, anxiety stems from a lack of control. You only regain control by learning “life skills” before you leave home.
Try to learn how to manage a basic budget and how to cook three simple, affordable meals. Knowing you can take care of your physical needs builds immense confidence, especially if you’ll be moving to res life.
Know when to seek professional support
Sometimes anxiety becomes more than just “nerves.” If you find that your fear is preventing you from sleeping, eating, or leaving the house, it is important to speak to someone.
Normalise the first month’s struggles
You should expect to feel unsettled for the first few weeks. Everyone else on campus or at a new job is likely trying to find their feet as well. It may take time to find your rhythm.
Allow yourself to be a beginner. After all, you are learning how to be an adult, and that is a skill that requires practice.
If you are feeling more and more out of control, try to keep in touch with your high school friends for emotional support, but do not let those old ties stop you from meeting new people. Adulting is about learning and meeting new people.
Also see: Choosing the right career path: A comprehensive guide for matrics
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