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The soft parenting of kids: Good, bad, or the new norm? 

by Chumasande Matiwane
Picture: iStock / SeventyFour

Soft parenting, a style that is characterised by empathy, gentle guidance and prioritising children’s emotional needs, has been gaining significant attention in recent years.  

Also see: Here are 5 parenting habits that drain your child’s joy

It contrasts with traditional authoritarian approaches by focusing less on strict rules and more on nurturing a child’s individuality and emotional well-being. 

But is this approach beneficial, detrimental or simply a reflection of evolving societal norms? That is the question. 

Soft parenting is all about a secure and trusting parent-child relationship, by emphasising open communication and validating children’s feelings. Although it helps develop emotional intelligence, self-confidence and resilience, it sometimes does not work. 

Yes, this approach can encourage kids to express themselves freely and navigate social challenges with empathy and understanding. But there is an underlying issue with soft parenting, as it may lead to overindulgence or a lack of discipline.

Also see: Modern Parenting: Navigating Today’s Challenges with Confidence

This can potentially result in children who struggle with boundaries and self-control.  

According to PsychologyToday, these are the concerns with soft parenting: 

  • Too gentle
  • Provides insufficient parental control for behaviour to change
  • Time-consuming
  • Does not provide clear strategies for specific behaviours
  • Overemphasises the parent’s feelings and responses to the detriment of the child, and 
  • It is emotionally demanding

Without clear limits, critics fear children may develop a sense of entitlement or difficulty coping with frustration and failure. 

So soft parenting is neither inherently good nor bad; its effectiveness often depends on balance and context.  

Also see: Parenting styles that sabotage a child’s future

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