Navigating relationships can be difficult because there are so many different types of relationships and types of love to consider, and what works for one couple may not work for another.
Relationships function best when all partners’ needs are met in a balanced manner. However, if the scales tip too far in one direction, you may find yourself in a codependent relationship.
Clinical psychologist Coda Derrig, PhD, defines what a codependent relationship is, how it can be harmful to all parties and signs you should watch out for:
There is a severe power imbalance in a codependent relationship. Often, one person devotes significantly more time, energy, and focus to the other person, who consciously or unconsciously exploits the situation to maximize their needs and desires. However, you can be codependent with anyone, including your boss, friends, colleagues, or family members.
Signs of co-dependency
1. You feel like you need to save them from themselves.
2. You want to change who they are.
3. Taking time out for self-care makes you feel selfish.
4. It’s difficult to explain how you’re feeling about your relationship.
5. You feel anxious when you don’t hear from them.
6. You have trouble being alone.
7. You routinely cancel plans to spend time with your partner.
8. Your space doesn’t feel like it’s yours.
9. You feel like maybe you ask for too much.
10. Their behavior escalates when you try to set healthy boundaries
After that read, maybe you’re finally recognizing some things that have been bubbling beneath the surface for a while. But it’s important to remember that there are healthy ways you and your partner can work together to restore balance to your relationship. Finally, all parties must work together to make this happen.
Also see: Signs you’re not in love with your partner
