It’s OK to talk to your friends about your love life and share with them the experiences you go through with your man. Sometimes, your friends will bring certain behaviours or changes to your attention and make you think about things that you might be too blinded by love to notice, which is good. But when you over-share and tell your friends every single detail of your love life, you might find yourself in a bit of a compromising position.
Here are some of the things you should rather think twice about before you share all the gory details.
1. When you fight. Women have a tendency of constantly sharing negative information about a relationship more than they would share the positive, such as telling the details of the fights you keep having with your man. This is unhealthy because it portrays a negative image of your partner. It is normal for couples to fight but if that’s all you’re ever revealing to your friends, they might end up hating. They will also keep reminding you of the bad times long after you have forgotten about them.
2. His secrets. When your man tells you something in confidence, you should keep it that way, regardless of how close you are with your friends. People are sometimes very cautious about their reputation and the information they reveal to other people. As a girlfriend/boyfriend, you should respect that. Imagine you trusted your partner enough to tell them something deeply personal and they shared it with their friends? If your partner somehow finds out that you told someone, you risk losing their trust altogether and once that is gone, nothing will be the same between the two of you.
3. His financial issues. It’s all good and well to share your own financial stresses with your buddies but discussing those of another person is not advisable. Many people associate financial status with respect and power. You may be frustrated that your partner is not pulling his financial weight but rather talk to him/her about it first before you complain to your friends. Power relations might be negatively affected if you share this information and your friends will not hold your partner in the same esteem as before. They might even consider him/her as less of a man/woman because of it.
4. Your sex life. Like financial issues, your sex life is a personal detail that should stay between you and you partner, unless you are talking about your own performance in the bedroom and need some sort of advice from a friend. Do not reveal the details of your partner’s performance, stamina or “size.” No friend wants the image of you and your boyfriend being intimate in their head.
5. Things you haven’t told your partner about. If there is something that you feel uncomfortable about in your relationship but have not yet spoken to your partner, then do not tell someone else. Especially if this is about your partner’s behaviour and is affecting you negatively. While you may ask your friend for advice about approaching your partner about certain issues, try at best to avoid constant complaining and moaning about the same thing to the point of self-destruction while your partner doesn’t have a single clue about your dissatisfaction.
