Abuse can occur in many ways, it can be physical, emotional and even verbal. In a lot of cases people don’t realise they are being abused because it is not physical, this is why it’s important to know and understand all the forms in which abuse may exist.
Let us get a full glimpse of what verbal abuse looks like, and how to spot and deal with it.
Very Well Mind states that verbal abuse is an emotional form of control and power over someone, often involving yelling, put-downs, and belittling behaviours. It can occur in any relationship, including romantic, parent-child, family, and co-worker relationships.
“Some people are verbally abused on a regular basis without even recognising that it’s happening. Verbal abuse sometimes precedes physical abuse; however, this is not always the case. The effects of verbal abuse can be just as damaging as those of physical abuse.”
What are the signs?
Name-calling: Talk Space mentions that an indication of verbal abuse is excessively insulting someone or constantly calling them degrading names that offend them. “If you’ve asked someone to stop calling you a name and they’ve ignored your request, they’re being verbally abusive.”
Criticism and judgment: It is also stated by the above publication that while criticism can be beneficial, it can also be a tool used by an abuser to undermine your confidence and that abusers frequently use harsh, exaggerated criticism to obtain what they want.
The Psych Central publication describes various other forms of harassment, including jealous accusations, making offensive jokes, threatening to harm you, making demeaning comments, demanding access to personal accounts, denying medical needs, insisting on constant monitoring, mocking and undermining your efforts.
Dealing with verbal abuse
Creative a support system: According to WebMD, while discussing your experience with someone may be challenging, dealing with verbal abuse may be calmed and made easier by having a reliable friend or therapist by your side.
Take care of yourself: The publication states that even if it is only for a short while each day, set aside time for self-care. “Remind yourself of your value and worth and that you deserve care. Being abused is never your fault.”
Establish an exit plan: It is not always possible to stop someone else from verbally abusing you, and there are instances when it is safer to leave a situation than to attempt to make it better, states Psych Central. Therefore it is advised that you “Speak with a trained professional who can help you get the assistance you need and help you create a safety plan to exit a situation.”
