There is a way professionals look at the grieving process, however, society and different cultures sometimes play a role in what is acceptable during a grieving process.
For example, what we have seen play out on social media after the dreadful passing of musician Mandla Maphumulo known for his stage name as Mampintsha. Some people didn’t shy away from expressing how his widow, Babes wodumo should grieve.
Radio host, Criselda Kananda shared on social media “I never had a chance to grieve for my husband how I wanted to, because culture said I must be head bowed down.”
Although it might seem impossible, there are times when society and culture will put terms and conditions on how you should grieve.
According to Help guide there is no right or wrong way to grieve, you need to understand there are different stages and processes of grieving. Some people who have lost loved ones grieve by celebrating the life of their loved one who has passed, others would rather be left alone and not express how they feel. There really isn’t a formula on how you should feel or do.
The grieving process takes time , healing happens gradually and no one can force you on how you should feel. “Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing, it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.” – says Help guide
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