It is often a woman’s dream to someday have children, and mostly children of her own, to have that special bond of a mother and child during pregnancy until the day she holds her baby in her arms.
However, it is not always that we get what we wish for, for some women having children is a possibility, yes, but carrying them in their womb may not always be possible. This is why there are options available such as adoption and surrogacy.
Surrogacy is the process in which a couple or individual decides to choose another woman to carry their child for the duration of pregnancy. After the birth of the baby, this person is then obligated to give the baby to the pair who will assume the roles of the parents of the newborn. This process is not only for women who have fertility issues, it is also used by gay couples.
Now if you are planning on having a baby and you are thinking of going the surrogacy route, you need to know what you’re getting yourself into and be well prepared, as the Better Health Channel states that “surrogacy arrangements are medically, emotionally, financially and legally complex.”
What you need to know:
Choosing a surrogate
WebMD states that surrogate mothers should be at least 21 years old, have given birth to at least one healthy baby, have passed a psychological screening, and sign a contract outlining their role and responsibilities in pregnancy, including prenatal care and giving up the baby after birth.
The publication also emphasises that surrogates must undergo a medical exam to ensure a healthy pregnancy, including tests for infectious diseases, immunity to measles, rubella, and chickenpox, and a procedure to map the uterus.
ConcieveAbilities adds on to say, “A team of professionals is essential to find a surrogate who has shared values and expectations. A surrogacy journey is a deeply personal journey for both the intended parent and surrogate.”
What to expect from the surrogate
The Pacific Fertility Centre states that when choosing a surrogate, it’s crucial to find one who is willing to allow parents to make medical choices and be involved in the pregnancy and birthing experience. “Find a carrier who is on the same page as you on the issues that are most important to you. It is essential to an overall positive experience to discuss these matters in-depth before agreeing to move forward on the journey.”
It is further mentioned that the surrogate should be willing to take hormone injections, maintain appointments, and adhere to the boundaries set for the 9 months and the child’s life after birth. “Some parents want and welcome involvement with the surrogate after birth, others aren’t as inclined. Find a carrier who is willing to make concessions and come to the perfect agreement. It will make all the difference in your process.”
Legal issues
Carolinas Fertility Institute claims that “you will need to have a lawyer that specialises in assisted reproduction on your side.” This is to clarify the legal and financial details of your relationship with a surrogate mother, including compensation agreements and contact with the baby, according to the mentioned source.
“Having an attorney well-versed in reproductive law can make the process much easier. If you use an agency to find a surrogate, they may be able to help you find a lawyer.”
Also see: How to become a surrogate mother
