So, you have just met the man of your dreams and already dreaming of a beautiful future together. If you are a parent, however, this dream requires you to tread very carefully as you have to introduce your partner to your child in a way that will not make them feel like they are about to be replaced.
While some kids may be easy when it comes to this, some can be overprotective of anyone else coming in their territory. If you are ready for your partner to meet your child and not sure how to go about it, the tips provided below by Psychology Everywhere might be able to help you.
In the beginning, introduce your partner as a friend
Most children don’t understand the relationship between men and women, especially when they are young. It is not worth complicating the situation by trying to explain. Even if your child is old enough to understand dating, introducing your partner as a friend first will give your child time to get used to this new person.
Limit physical contact in the beginning
In your child’s mind, it has likely been him (or her) and you, for as long as he/she can remember. Involving your significant other in your family life too quickly can make your child feel insecure and feel their relationship with you is being compromised. Limit the nights your partner stays over. Introduce public displays of affection slowly.
Be clear about roles
Make sure your partner understands that you’re not looking for them to play a parent role. Discipline should be up to the parent only, as well as intimate encounters such as bath time or getting your child dressed. Clarify with your child who is the parent and who is the boyfriend or girlfriend. Don’t use the phrase “family time” when you discuss getting together with your partner.
Choose a neutral venue where your child feels happy
When you make the first introduction, choose an environment where your child is at ease, for instance, a park. If you can, try to arrange the first few encounters in a group setting. You may consider inviting a few friends over for a braai and include your significant other. Group settings are less threatening for children and allows you to ease your child into the transition.
Also see: Challenges and solutions of single parenting
