As we all know, Valentine’s day is the day many showcase their love to the partners through small ‘it’s the thought that counts’ to extravagant gifts that has all sbwl’ing. However, not all relationships are not the same and you may not receive a gift. It helps if you and your partner talked about this in advance and are aware whether or not you will be receiving a gift.
Valentine’s day is a great day to showcase your love, but it shouldnt mean the end of your relationship if your partner is not able to gift you. But the question remains, should you end your relationship if you did not receive anything for Valentine’s day?
No one but you can answer this question truthfully because you know your partner best and whether or not a single day is worth your love for them.
Share with your partner how much you like to celebrate Valentine’s Day and how you were hoping for a gift. Consider the idea of a special “Valentine’s Day” just the two of you. Use “I-statements” whenever possible when talking about the topic. I-statements typically start with “I feel” and then elaborate on your feelings. According to conflict resolution theory, I-statements let you communicate feelings unrepentantly caused by the actions (or inactions) of another. “I feel a little let down that I didn’t get a Valentine’s Day present from you this year,” is a good start.
Do not forget to express your love for your partner once again. Be sure to express that, despite your disappointment, your relationship is not in danger. Avoid engaging in this topic when angry, if this incident has caused you to feel extremely disturbed, try to relax first. Describe to your companion the types of presents you enjoy. Asking for what you want is perfectly acceptable and crucial to honest communication.
