It can sometimes be awkward to raise any topic related to sex, because some people are easily offended by the topic.
Telling your partner that they can do better or they do not satisfy you when you’re having sex can either go very well or very bad.
However, communication goes a long way and knowing how to approach your partner can help you make the conversation easy, and for them to feel less offended. Making it clear that, you’re not accusing them of having a low drive when you guys are having sex but it can be better or improve.
According to Cosmopolitan these are things you need to remember when talking to your partner about sex in your relationship:
Sex is meant to make you feel good
If you’re losing your nerve, remember that you deserve to feel great, and that your partner wants you to feel great too.
Also, remember sex is not only about what the other partner does but about pleasing yourself and make yourself feel good. Another thing you can try is being subtly suggestive when you’re in bed with your partner, For example, move around to try different things to see if they won’t be into it.
The tone you use when talking about sex
Relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, says the best way to tell your partner what you want in bed is to be direct, but also complimentary and kind.
Whatever you do, it is advised that you avoid having a sex conversation after sex, let an opportunity presents itself so your partner doesn’t feel offended.
Show and give direction
Aimee says, sometimes being direct will result to a push back or your partner becoming defensive, be clear and precise.
“When I am with someone [like that] I find blunt descriptions work best such as, ‘Suck the clit as if it is my nipple’, ‘Lift your finger towards the ceiling while sliding it in and out slowly’, or ‘Don’t push down towards the floor, the G-spot is up towards the ceiling’.” says Reddit user ArielAriel
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