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When is it time to leave a relationship?

No person gets into a relationship thinking it is going to end. Hence, it may be difficult to acknowledge or see when it has run its course.

Sometimes, we suspect that it might be time to leave when things don’t get easy, especially if you’ve shared a bond, such as a home, kids and even if you’ve gone through many life challenges.

In a case where you are clueless on whether to stay or leave your relationship, the following signs by experts may help give you an understanding of where your relationship is.

American author and coach Tony Robbins says you should leave your relationship if:

You no longer communicate 

In order for a relationship to work there needs to be communication from both sides, if that is lacking, or if there’s no interest to communicate, that may be your cue to consider leaving the relationship.

You are unable or don’t want to fix it

No relationship is perfect, and every now and then you might have to find ways to fix what is not going well in your relationship through communication and positive gestures. Tony adds, “The key on how to know when to leave a relationship is your desire to fix it: if you’re willing to put in the work, it’s possible to create a fulfilling relationship. But if you’re planning your escape, which is stage four of the six stages of a relationship, it’s time to move on.”

Conflict is constant, and the fights are bad

According to the University of Michigan’s study on how fight styles affect marriage, research gathered showed the presence of conflict was not the issue, how the fight erupts is. Arguments and healthy fights do occur in relationships, if they possess signs of unhealthy patterns like “stonewalling, giving each other the silent treatment, or engaging in hurtful personal attacks, it may be best to leave,” shares mental health information hub driven by psychologists, Psychology Today.

Also see: How to cope in a relationship with no sex

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