Marriage not only consists of you and your partner but your partner’s family too. Therefore, it is important to get along with your in-laws. However, for some, there may be an unfortunate instance where their mother-in-law makes it difficult for their relationship to flourish. So, how do you know that you have a toxic mother-in-law?
Here are a few traits of a toxic mother-in-law as explained by psychotherapist Dr Susan Forward, published by the online relationship and lifestyle publication Marriage.
Invasive in your marriage
A mother-in-law may try to stick her nose into the couple’s business or want to hear gossip about their marriage so that she can pass information on to her social circle.
Ignores boundaries
It is important to tell your partner to step in when their mother makes it a habit of ignoring boundaries. Once there is a conversation concerning the issue, the mother-in-law might still cross the line, as toxic people don’t know how else to function. Put your foot down – respectfully – and be strict on enforcing those boundaries.
Secretly harbours jealousy
A toxic mother-in-law can harbour jealousy towards their child’s spouse. This can be for several reasons, for example, the mother-in-law may feel that the in-law does something better than them. It is up to the couple to ensure they still have a relationship and know that it is not their fault.
Two-faced
If a mother-in-law, for example, tells their in-law to their face that they look nice but does a complete 180 by telling their child that their in-law looks hideous, this is a definite sign of toxicity.
Selective listener
This type of mother-in-law only hears what she wants to hear while conveniently ignoring anything that does not align with her preconceived notions or desires. she might even twist someone’s words to fit her narrative or completely dismiss them.
