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Overcoming the fear of being average

by Qaqamba Falithenjwa
illustration: picture: pexels

Somewhere between hustle culture and social media highlight reels, a strange fear has crept into our minds: the fear of being average. It’s that little voice whispering, “You should be doing more,” when you’re just enjoying a quiet Saturday or scrolling past a stranger’s “I just bought a house at 25” post and suddenly questioning every life choice you’ve ever made.

However, being “average” shouldn’t be regarded as failure because it’s part of being human.

According to Psychology Today, the pressure to be exceptional can actually lead to anxiety, burnout, and chronic dissatisfaction as we’re wired to seek meaning and belonging, not constant applause. And yet, in a world where everyone’s curating their best life online, the middle ground has become something to fear.

Social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok often create unrealistic benchmarks for success, glamorising productivity and perfection. The Atlantic publication reminds us that true fulfilment often comes from consistent, small wins—like showing up for work, being a good friend, or simply enjoying your hobbies without needing to turn them into side hustles.

The above source continues to mention that overcoming the fear of being average starts with redefining what success looks like for you—not what it looks like for your favourite influencer or high school friend turned entrepreneur. Maybe it’s peace, stability, or finding joy in the everyday, like your morning coffee or evening walk.

Being “average” isn’t the opposite of special—it’s where most of life happens, and there’s beauty in that. So here’s to the soft victories, the quiet growth, and the people who aren’t chasing the spotlight but are living fully, honestly, and on their own terms.

Because average? That’s real. And real is more than enough.

Also see: Live life to the fullest and try joy snacking

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