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How to handle pathological liars

People frequently lie to one another. In many cases, lying is done for a very precise reason. There are times when lying is used to further a goal. Pathological liars, on the other hand, frequently lie without cause and with little regard for the consequences.

According to Mayo Clinic, a pathological liar simply means the person has a compulsive urge to lie about matters big and small, regardless of the situation.

The lies are often lengthy and elaborate. Even when it hurts them, pathological liars frequently fabricate stories. As a result of their lying, they can lose their jobs and damage their relationships.‌

Below are some signs to indicate a pathological liar.

  • Their truths are changeable
  • They are not reliable
  • Avoids confrontations
  • They are manipulative

How to deal with pathological liars

It can be challenging to end a relationship with a pathological liar, even after realising who they are.

This can be a result of your emotional connection with them or the commitment you have made to the relationship. In any case, if you want to maintain that relationship, you must understand how to assist a pathological liar.

Don’t interact with them 

According to Healthline, when you catch someone lying, avoid having a conversation with them. You can challenge their claims, which might prompt them to stop lying at the moment.

Additionally, you can inform them that if they’re lying, you don’t want to continue with the conversation.

Have a conversion with yourself

Marraige.com recommends that you have a conversion with yourself if you would like to keep the relationship going. This is due to the fact that you cannot assist them in improving if you have not yet acknowledged the need for improvement.

Don’t lose your temper

When addressing a pathological liar, it’s crucial to control your wrath, no matter how aggravating it may be. Be nice and encouraging, yet firm Healthline encourages.

Don’t get offended by the lies, as they are not always about you 

Although it is not always easy to take being lied to too personally, one should remember that for pathological liars, when you lie, it has nothing to do with you, states the aforementioned health publication. The individual may be driven by an underlying personality disorder, anxiety, or low self-esteem.

Denial is likely, so you should expect it from a pathological liar

Someone who pathologically lies could have a propensity to start off by lying. The likelihood is that they will deny lying if you confront them about it.

Healthline suggests that you be supportive by informing them that they don’t need to try to impress you. Rather, let them know that you value them for who they really are.

Also see: 5 Signs your partner is a pathological liar

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