When you have been disappointed by love a lot of times, it can be difficult to even believe the concept of love again. You are most likely to question every person claiming to love you because you don’t trust that that’s a possibility.
However, that is no way to live life, as long as you’re still breathing, there’s always hope. There are strategies suggested by experts on how to gain the confidence to believe in love again, because, to be honest, in whatever we do, and whoever we are we will always need love.
The Trinity Relationship Centre suggests that you open your heart and be open to love again, even if it’s painful. You are encouraged to be complete with yourself, love, forgive, and accept yourself. The publication emphasizes the fact that you need to understand that everyone is broken and a work in progress, and there’s always room for improvement, therefore you shouldn’t feel guilty or ashamed.
Coach Simona, a certified life coach states that learning to trust and love again is a key step for post-heartbreak recovery. She advises that you continue working on yourself in the process so that you’re emotionally, mentally and physically ready should you get a shot at another relationship, whether platonic or romantic.
“Now, it’s time to focus on you. You need to focus on your own needs and accept yourself for who you are. A heartbreak is hard to recover from not just because it shatters your ability to trust other people. It can also damage your self-esteem.”
The life coach further states that reprogramming your brain is not about instant improvement, but it provides insight into your behaviour, perception of reality, and relationships with others. Opening your heart is a never-ending process of giving/receiving and healing, she claims.
According to WebMD, to increase your chances of finding love, you need to socialise more by joining clubs, connecting with old friends, and joining local societies. The publication warns against being too hard on yourself about your heartbreak or trying to love again.
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