Relationships are nice at the beginning stages that we never anticipate our partners leaving or hurting us.
The sad reality is that people sometimes outgrow each other, and just like the things you liked five years ago that you have now discarded, they may also try and break away from you.
Those brave enough may come forward and say when they have lost interest in their partners, but some might just unintentionally show signs that they are not really into the relationship. We have compiled five signs out many to look out for if you sense that your partner may have lost interest in you, as provided by Bustle.
They Don’t Include You In Their Plans
Sure, they might be busy. And yes, you’re both totally allowed to do your own thing. But relationship consultant Chris Seiter says there may be a loss of interest if your partner no longer considers you when creating their schedule for the week.
You Haven’t Had Sex In A While
In a similar vein, if you used to fall into bed practically every night, it might seem like a red flag if your partner is suddenly less interested in sex. It’s important to keep in mind that many couples have sex less often as their relationship goes on and, again, once that honeymoon phase comes to an end. Health issues and work stress may play a role, too. But since it can point to a loss of interest in a relationship — and in some cases, can also be a sign of cheating — it’ll be important to talk about your concerns ASAP.
You Don’t Feel Supported
Supporting a partner through life’s ups and downs can be difficult and time-consuming, which is why someone who is about to leave won’t want to make the effort. “A loving partner would usually offer support,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Heidi McBain, “so if nothing bigger is going on in their life, this might be a sign that they aren’t that interested in you.”
Your Partner Is Always Moody
It’s normal for couples to feel annoyed with each other every now and again. But if their mood seems particularly agitated or avoidant, it could be a sign that your partner is thinking about leaving. To double check if their mood has to do with your relationship, consider how they act in other areas of their life
They No Longer Try To Fix Problems
Did you have a big argument, or is there an ongoing problem in your relationship? Take note if your partner doesn’t go out of their way to apologize or find ways to prevent it from happening again. Clinical social worker and therapist Neena Lall says, “when someone is feeling safe and invested in a relationship, they will put in the time and vulnerability to try to understand and be understood.” If they’re planning on leaving, they simply won’t bother.
Also see: Can relationships survive infidelity?
