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How to support family without neglecting yourself

As a family oriented person, your loved ones are of utmost importance to you. You spend your days ensuring they are well taken care of. That’s just what you do, and you’re happy doing it. 

Is your dedication to your loved ones forcing you to neglect yourself? How many times have you put someone else’s desires ahead of your own? It’s admirable that you want to look after your family and friends.

Nonetheless, it is critical to balance this with self-care. You may think it is impossible, but it is actually much simpler than it appears.

Rob Cole, LMHC, Clinical Director of Mental Health Services at Banyan Treatment Center, is here to help you get started.

Make sleep a top priority

First and foremost, ensure that you are receiving enough sleep, as most people are not. “Most folks require 7-8 hours of sleep per night.” “Listen to your body to determine how much you require,” Rob says. “It’s best to get your body into a routine by getting up and going to bed at the same time every day—weekday or weekend.” Naturally, your body will adjust and develop its own internal alarm clock!”

Practise gratitude

Begin each day with appreciation. After a good night’s sleep, start the day with your best foot forward. Consider gratitude: As you stretch and get out of bed, list five things you are grateful for.

Exercise effective communication skills

Another method to consider is “building strong time management and communication skills.” “Prioritize your daily tasks and avoid overcommitting,” Rob suggests. “Learn how to say no politely but assertively.” Learn how to accurately state your demands and ask for assistance! When appropriate, delegate work to others.”

Make use of your support system

Finally, don’t be afraid to seek for help or support when you need it—which we all do from time to time. Having a strong social support network has been shown to reduce stress. Your support system consists of family, friends, coworkers, and mentors. Join a club, church, or group and put it to good use!

Also see: How to make the best out of a blended family

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