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Toddler behaviours that are frustrating but completely normal

Parenting a toddler can feel like navigating a daily rollercoaster. One minute your child is cuddling you; the next, they’re lying on the supermarket floor because you said no to sweets.

While some toddler behaviours can be incredibly frustrating, many are a normal part of early childhood development.

Also see: Why boredom is actually good for your toddler

Tantrums and big emotions

According to Mental Health Centre Kids, temper tantrums are particularly common between the ages of one and three. Toddlers are developing independence and experiencing powerful emotions, but they don’t yet have the language or self-control to manage those feelings consistently.

Hunger, tiredness, frustration and changes to routine can all make tantrums more likely. Stay calm, acknowledge the feeling and keep boundaries clear. Giving your toddler two simple choices can also give them a sense of control.

Saying “no” to everything

“No!” can seem to become a toddler’s favourite word. That resistance is often part of learning independence. Testing boundaries helps young children understand what they can and cannot do.

Instead of turning every disagreement into a battle, Baby Centre recommends offering limited choices where possible: “Would you like the red shirt or the blue one?”

Also see: Creative ways to get your toddler to eat more fruit

Not wanting to share

According to Raising Children Network, sharing can be hard for toddlers. They can struggle to understand another child’s perspective, making grabbing toys, refusing to share and playing alongside rather than with other children common at this age. Empathy and social skills develop gradually through practice.

Hitting, biting and pushing

Occasional hitting, biting or pushing can occur when toddlers become overwhelmed or lack the words to express themselves.

Still address it calmly and consistently: make it clear that hurting others is not acceptable, and model alternative ways to communicate.

When should parents seek help?

Normal toddler behaviour varies considerably. If you are worried about your child’s behaviour or development, speak to your paediatrician or healthcare professional for personalised advice.

Also see: Helpful tips to get a toddler to brush their teeth

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