Break ups suck, they are not easy. Even though you may be the one who has initiated the break up, it’ll still be hard to deal with parting ways with someone who was once your everything. Post breakup emotions are usually the hardest to deal with. Experiencing confusion, relief, grief and heartbreak all at once is normal after a break up.
However, though break ups may be hard, they are usually the best decision one can make for themselves. Remember, one does not wake up one random day and decide to part ways with their partner, this decision is usually taken after a series of unbearable and unpleasant events, hence the break up.
Here’s what Healthline recommends for heartbreak recovery:
1. Take some time apart
This might seem like the worst part of it all as you are probably used to being together all the time. However, even if you may have plans to maintain a friendship with your ex, spending some time apart is imperative to start the healing process. Physical and emotional distance will be beneficial to both you and your ex.
2. Taking care of yourself
This is the best time to prioritise self care. Do the things that bring you joy, things that nurture you and things that will help you process your feelings like therapy, music and art.
3. Dealing with social media
In the case that the relationship was public (where you shared parts of your relationship with your social media family), take some time off social media. This ensures you don’t end up souring your mood by coming across photos of your ex or photos of seemingly picture-perfect couples. Unfollow your ex, to avoid constant reminders of him, remember the proverb “out of sight, out of mind” unless you have the mutual agreement to remain friends.
4. Ask for help
If you feel like it is getting too much, then spend some time with family and friends as a form of distraction. Let them know that you are not coping. Alternatively, if speaking to friends and family is the route you do not want to take, you could also seek help by attending therapy with a professional.
Also see: Ways to deal with mental health issues before it becomes a mental disorder
