Kids can be adorable and you sometimes feel like spoiling them all the time, whether they are yours, you’re an aunt or grandmother, it can be hard to say NO!
Boundaries for kids can be anything from, giving them a certain number of sweets, having a set bedtime, limited screen time and having basic rules for them.
One mistake some parents seem to do the most, is to be inconsistent with their kinds when it comes to boundaries and not following up on the rules set by you.
According to Mind Body Green in as much as it is hard for you to say no to your child, parental boundaries can make a child feel safe. Rules and routines can create predictability, which that reduces uncertainty and that reduces anxiety.
Author of Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours Dr. Kevin Leman shares some guidelines to set up boundaries with your child
- Build trust between you and your child, you need to let them know that you trust them and that they can trust that you’re serious when you’re setting up your rules or telling them to do something.
- Not everything should be serious, have a fun aspect about your parenting. choose a few things that go under your rules/ boundaries and the rest could be somethings that you communicate with them about and can change as time goes.
- Communicating with your child instead of shouting will lead better results and establish respect between you and your child.
- Family meetings where you communicate with them about the boundaries could help, especially if they are part of the process and can share their views.
- Draft the rules down, have a copy in their room and on the fridge as a reminder.
Parenting could be fun if you start from a young age to train your kids that in life, there are boundaries and rules to live by.
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