In South Africa, funerals are more than farewells. They are moments of community, where mourners gather not just to honour the dead but to share food and comfort afterwards. That is why the last wish of a man named Moses Masupha Selepe has caused such a stir online.
Selepe, who passed away in August 2025, had one clear instruction printed at the bottom of his funeral programme: no food or refreshments were to be served. After the burial, guests were to return home without the usual meal that typically follows.
A tradition questioned
Food is often central at funerals in Mzansi. It symbolises respect and gratitude to those who travelled from near and far to pay their respects. From a plate of pap and stew to cold drinks served under a tent, these gestures are seen as part of the cultural rhythm of mourning. Selepe’s instruction, however, broke with this norm and forced people to ask: must funerals always include food, or should last wishes come first?
Social media erupts
When a photo of the funeral programme was posted on X, the reactions poured in. Some praised Selepe for his honesty and practicality. One user called him a “GOAT” for refusing to burden his family with costs, while another said this was how their family also handled burials: simple coffins, no catering, and no extras.
Others were not impressed. Many argued that providing food was not about the deceased but about honouring the mourners. One critic joked, “We need proof Moses really said this; otherwise, we are not leaving without eating.” Another simply wrote, “I wouldn’t go to the funeral.”
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The cultural divide
The debate revealed a generational and cultural split. Some South Africans admire the move towards simplicity, especially given the high costs of funerals in the country. Others believe food is non-negotiable, as it embodies ubuntu and appreciation for community support during grief.
Even businesses like catering services emphasise that food at funerals is more than hospitality; it is a way of showing respect. Selepe’s wishes, then, go against a deeply rooted custom, which is why they sparked such heated discussion.
Beyond one man’s wish
At its heart, the viral programme has opened up an uncomfortable but necessary conversation. Funerals in South Africa are expensive, and many families feel pressured to provide lavish meals and events they cannot afford. Selepe’s final instruction may not sit well with everyone, but it raises questions about whether the focus of funerals should be on ceremony or simply on remembrance.
As South Africans continue to debate, one thing is certain: Selepe’s last wish has given the country more to talk about than many extravagant funerals ever could.
Source: Briefly News
Featured Image: Sonja Smith Funeral Group
