Have you ever heard of the saying “You just teach them how to love you”? It means that you are aware of what you require for you to feel loved, you basically know your worth, and therefore you educate the next person to love you the way you know you deserve to be loved. Get it?
The Medium publication mentions that teaching someone how to love you involves identifying your needs and desires, communicating them clearly, setting boundaries, modelling desired behaviour, and giving feedback.
It is further stated that you need to reflect on your expectations and communicate your needs to your partner while establishing acceptable behaviour and respecting boundaries. “Model the behaviour you want: Show your partner how you want to be loved by demonstrating the behaviour you want to receive. If you want more quality time, make an effort to spend more time together. If you want more physical affection, initiate physical contact yourself.”
Our needs and expectations of love change as we evolve, states the 30s And Beyond publication. As a person, it is stated that your love language may change, and your expectations of love may change. Therefore, for you to experience fulfilment, you need to trust that the person you are with is worthy of being a student and that they will study well and pay attention to your needs.
The publication further adds that you remember that when entering a new relationship, you’re getting a clean slate with someone who knows nothing about your history, habits, or lifestyle, this is why you will need to teach them and also be willing to learn all of their world.
The She Went Where website suggests that to navigate what you want from a relationship, you need to create open communication, explicitly express what you like, be patient, recognize that it might not happen exactly how you want it to, and develop new standards of love with your partner can bring them one step closer to knowing how to love you the way you want
Also see: Steps to trusting love again
