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This is why most women don’t experience orgasm

In a society where intimacy is frequently represented as a smooth, happy experience, the truth is often not so black and white for many women. When reality strikes and vulnerability meets expectations, for some women there’s a lot that is not communicated, often for the sake of peace and harmony in the relationship.

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Satisfaction when it comes to sexual intercourse is a priority for both parties involved, this is why health experts reveal the facts that go against popular belief, as they peel back the layers of this personal and sometimes complex subject.

The Cleveland Clinic states that only 10% of women easily climax, and many don’t orgasm during vaginal sex. Psychology Today adds that factors contributing to this include demographics, beliefs, relationships, and sexual trauma. “Men report orgasms in approximately 95 per cent of heterosexual encounters, but for women, depending on the study, the figure ranges from only 50 to 70 per cent.”

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According to Health Direct, other contributing factors include poor communication, lack of stimulation, self-confidence, and trust.

“Some physical causes of difficulty reaching orgasm may include hormone change — for example after childbirth, perimenopause or after menopause, certain medical conditions — including thyroid problems, stress, anxiety and depression, painful sex’ taking some medicines — such as antidepressants and medicines, use of recreational drugs, alcohol or smoking and growing older.”

Lesbian women experience orgasms 75% of the time with their partners, bisexual women 58%, and heterosexual women 62%, states Healthy Women. Dr Emily Jamea, a sex therapist suggests that this could be due to a better understanding of women’s bodies and less pressure during intercourse.

The above publication also mentions that female orgasms traditionally fall into vaginal and clitoral categories, but the distinction between the two is still unclear. “Some research suggests that there are different sets of nerve endings in the clitoris versus the vagina, but we also have to remember that the clitoral body goes deep inside — and is usually about 3 inches long, with two wing structures. So arguably, all orgasms could be clitoral.”

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