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How often should one have sex according to experts

Many couples wonder and ponder as to how many times one should be having sex. Well! According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, there is no “normal” frequency of sex, providing everyone in the relationship is happy.

How often a couple should have sex depends all on the couple alone how frequently they have sex. Their sexual experiences will be particular to them and the current state of their lives. A person’s libido and how frequently a couple engages in sexual activity can be influenced by a variety of circumstances.

But how much sex should a couple actually have? According to research, couples who engage in sexual activity at least once a week are happier than those who don’t. 

How much sex should a couple have?

In general, experts recommend once every week. Age has a little effect on that statistic; although 20 to 30 year olds tend to average approximately twice a week, 40 and 50 year olds tend to fall around that baseline.

According to the USATODAY a Smithtown, New York-based clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Peter Kanaris told the publication that people should be cautious against using the average as a yardstick for individual sex lives. 

“What’s actually more important than for couples to get caught up in some statistical norm to match themselves to that is to look at this from a perspective of sexual satisfaction,” he told USA TODAY. “If a couple is sexually satisfied, then that’s the goal.”

The sex therapist and adjunct professor of psychology and education at Pepperdine University, Dr. Linda De Villers, also told the publication mentioned above that couples can engage in sexual activities as often as they desire as long as it makes them happy. 

“There’s a certain amount of motivation to feel normal, whatever that means. As often as it makes you and your partner feel good, you should engage in sexual activity. How frequently you should engage in sexual activity depends on how good and fulfilling it was that’s how often you should be sexual.”

In conclusion there is no correct number of times a couple should have sex. People may find that they engage in more or less sexual activity depending on factors such as age, health, life events, and relationship changes.

Therefore it is important for couples to communicate their sexual needs with their partner.

Also see: Foods that you should eat before sex

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