Although scheduling sex doesn’t sound particularly sexy, it could be exactly what you need to prioritize romance.
Life frequently interferes with relationships, especially romantic ones. Your sex life suffers as a result of busy schedules taking precedence over the relationship. To make sure your sex life doesn’t suffer, schedule sex into your calendar.
It’s simple to overlook the fact that relationships require work, and labor, like everything else, calls for preparation, time, and effort, especially when it comes to sex. Almost everything in life requires planning. How could intimacy be any different? Without plan, sex devolves into speculative talk—the domestic “We should get together sometime!” It simply won’t happen if you don’t sit down and schedule it.
According to sexologist Sarah Melancon, the hormones and chemicals of the honeymoon phase wear off after the first six to two years of a relationship, and reality begins to set in. You may begin to feel the strain of some unfulfilled needs in the relationship, she adds, “Your partner has unpleasant habits, you always fight.” “Sex can now deteriorate in the face of drama.”
Here are sexpert-approved tips to get started.
1. Set a goal for how often you want to have sex
Setting specific, doable goals is a better idea than simply deciding to have sex more frequently. For instance, you and your partner should decide how many times you want to have sex each week. According to Jenn Mann, LMFT, author of The Relationship Fix, this is a crucial first step in coming to mutual agreement on the number of times.
2. Be realistic
Be realistic when you first start out and make small, doable goals. This can get things moving and give you the confidence you need to accomplish more challenging objectives.
3. Let go of preconceived ideas
Scheduling sex is not shameful. You shouldn’t expect your sex life to be great without making any effort.
“Debunk common misconceptions about scheduling. Making time for your partner and prioritizing your relationship is a good thing, even if it often carries a negative connotation “says Katherine M. Hertlein, a sex and relationship therapist.
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